A Place That Looks Broken, But Can Give You a Lot (A Personal Story)

Today, I'll have a slightly different experience, as I'll be writing about an application and a site for the first time. I don't have much time to write, and this is a new experience for me. Especially, I'm sharing some personal details in this writing, as I'm writing about my own life.

However, let's get to the point and then I'll tell you what happened to me. And finally, I'll add a small surprise at the end of this article.

I need to explain why this site existsFirst, I need to talk a bit about myself. As a very social and friendly person, I wasn't like that in high school. In high school, I was a shy and quiet student, and I rarely talked to anyone except my friends. But things changed in university. From the very beginning, we learned about communication, making connections with people, and so on. Thanks to my university education, my stress and fears were alleviated, and my warm and friendly friends made my university life much more enjoyable. The books I read, my parents' support, and so on all played a big role in this. Until university, I had a hard time talking to girls, but things changed in university. Now, if you like the style of this article and the way I speak, it's thanks to my parents and the books I read.

A few years ago, I graduated from university, and it was as if all my friends disappeared overnight. We all went our separate ways because we had to start our adult lives after graduation. I was depressed at the time because I was determined to make new friends. That's when I decided to get a job to get a diploma, and I encountered my first problem: positive communication, friendly behavior, and being friends with everyone didn't come naturally to me. I even left my diploma program without making any new friends. And things got worse in my first job. There, I encountered the same problem, but it was worse. My friends didn't think I was friendly, and they were too afraid to talk to me. They even avoided me until we had a major issue. I was alone for two years, only talking to my family or colleagues. I wanted to be friendly and open, but I didn't know how. But I'm not writing this to be sad; things have changed a lot since then. I had a colleague who was a bit different, and I talked to them more often, but they weren't really friends with me. We had different worldviews and understandings of the world, but talking to them was still important to me. That's when a friend asked me why I was always sad and why I always looked sad. They offered me some advice, movie recommendations, music recommendations, and things to make me laugh. But I told them that everyone is different, and we all have our own stories. I was really struggling with making friends and talking to people, but things changed when I found this site.

Actually, what really bothered me wasn't working on something or finding something to share; it was the people who were trying to scam me or take advantage of me. A friend sent me a link and said, 'Check out this site,' and it was this.

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I'm sorry for telling a long story, but this is important because I think this site is where I first went and still visit sometimes (yes, I still hang out there, not regularly, but sometimes).

The ConceptThe site aims to be a completely anonymous social network. We can break it down into several sections:

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BlogsWritten chatAudio chatForumBlogsI couldn't say much about blogs and forums. I wrote a blog post, but the aggressive comments made me stop writing, and it's still there, written in 2013. However, many people read and enjoy the blogs.

ForumThe forum is the least visited section, and it's almost inactive now. In the past, people used to share their ideas and suggestions for improving the site, and even a mobile app idea was born. However, people mostly used the forum to find each other, and I think it wasn't very successful. Now, the forum is probably hidden or removed.

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First, let's take a look at Text Chat. From my perspective, most people who visit this site start with this section. Why? Because it's very simple and easy to use. You make your choices, click the start button, and wait. No one is stopping you; you're completely free. Of course, this is both a plus and a minus. We'll talk more about it later.

Text ChatLast year, they added some category options to make the chats more organized. However, most of the real conversations take place in the 'Other' section. Some people go to the 'Roleplay' section for role-playing games, while others go to the '18+' section... But we'll talk more about that later.

Voice ChatThey did the same thing they did in Text Chat. Again, the choices, the microphone, the headphones, and the start button. It's much simpler when you use your phone. In this section, there's no 'Other' section; it's just voice chat. Some things are missing in Text Chat, but they're available in voice chat, such as the partner's tone of voice, their relationship status, and their physical condition... Of course, we'll talk about the pros and cons of these features.

The Human FactorAny social media platform or site that requires human interaction has the human factor as its most important component. And when there are people involved, things are never entirely clear-cut. There are both positive and negative aspects.

In this paragraph, I'll start with the negative aspects because I gained experience on this platform, and I want to warn new users about what they might encounter. Yes, these things apply to both text and voice chat. You'll also see some other features.

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So, let's start.

I'll share my experiences: one of the common problems people, both men and women, face on this platform is that most people who visit are there for sexual or romantic purposes. This is normal because anonymity allows people to behave in ways they wouldn't in public. Most men go straight to the '18+' section, which is designed for adults, but some try to find ways to get there without following the rules. They might ask you questions about sex or kissing and then try to flirt with you. Many people visit this site just to ask for messages, and after 10 minutes of chatting, they expect you to respond immediately. This is a big problem, especially for women. In fact, I think it's a huge problem.Another big problem is that some people who visit this site are not suitable for conversation. They usually give short answers and don't ask questions. If you ask them a lot of questions and wait for their responses, they'll usually just say 'understood' and end the conversation. I had a similar experience. The woman I was chatting with didn't know what to do when I sent her a flirtatious message. Here's an example:I have a few experiences. Sometimes I struggle to define myself. This can be frustrating, but it's not always a problem. People are different, and we all have our own stories. Sometimes people try to define themselves, but it can be frustrating. I sometimes struggle to define myself. Sometimes people are hard to understand, and we all have our own stories.I want to give you some advice: there are scammers and fake people on this site. They're only interested in taking your money. If someone asks you for money and you don't know them, it's probably a scam. I have some examples:

Finally, there's another negative category: aggressors. Most of them are men. They're direct and aggressive, and they might even insult you. I won't go into detail because everyone has a different threshold for aggression. I have my own limits, and you might have yours too. Be careful.

Everything else is very personal and depends on you. For example, if someone who's married or in a relationship flirts with me, I wouldn't like it. People might react differently to different people, and that's normal.

Actually, this site looks like Tinder to some people, but without photos. Or it looks like an adult site without photos. But not everyone thinks the same way.

Actually, I'm just saying that. Everyone does the same thing online and in real life. Maybe it's a bit more embarrassing, but anonymity allows people to be themselves.

But now, I'll talk about the advantages of using this site.

For me, the most important thing is that if you're compatible with the other person, you can have amazing conversations. I've had many different conversations, including friendly, nostalgic, loyal, and even flirtatious ones. Here, you meet interesting, smart, and fun people, but it's essential to understand what you want and what the other person wants. This can solve most of the problems I mentioned earlier.I usually see that people come here 'just to have fun,' which can be a minus for some people, but it's a big plus for me. This way, you can have fun, funny, and sarcastic conversations, and both you and the other person will laugh. In my experience, especially in 2020, I met a lovely girl here, and we became friends. We've had many fun conversations since then. I think this site is great because you can have conversations that are special and meaningful.As I mentioned earlier, here, you can really 'get to know yourself' through conversations with others. This can be true for friends, acquaintances, neighbors, and even romantic relationships. However, the communication style between you and the other person is largely up to you. In some cases, these conversations can lead to deeper relationships, friendships, or even family relationships. I believe that's possible.If you're interested in creative thinking, human psychology, or psychology like me, this site is great. Especially when you're chatting with people, you can encounter many different psychological situations. This can be a fun and educational experience.I have to admit that this chat was very deep and complex. Human behavior, psychological analysis, and many other things made me think a lot during my time on this site. This experience helped me understand some things that can help you help your patients in real life.

This chat is a perfect example of 'The Stranger on the Train Syndrome.' To explain this syndrome, let me give you a simple anecdote. Imagine you're on a train, and you're going to A station, but you'll pass through V and G stations. During your journey, you meet a passenger who gets off at G station, and you start talking. Your conversation goes well, and you establish a trustworthy and sincere connection with this person, even though you'll never see them again.

Your conversation touches on personal topics, and this creates a deep connection between you. This connection means something to you, and it's a meaningful connection.

Also, this chat taught me a lot about psychological analysis and human behavior. Additionally, it helped me understand some things that can help you help your patients in real life. This taught me a lot about human psychology and norms and abnormalities.

This chat was not just about understanding things; it was a direct experience for me.

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In written chat, it's hard to tell who's a scammer, but in this chat, I noticed it a few times. If you don't like talking to scammers, why waste your time on them?

People are usually busy with other things, like cutting their nails, listening to music, going somewhere, or sitting down. The atmosphere is often tense. Some people behave in embarrassing ways, like getting up to go to the bathroom while talking. I didn't have that experience.

People often have bad microphones or use old Nokia 1100s, making it hard to hear the other person.

Groups often come here to 'just hang out.' I'm alone, and there's a group of scammers in front of me. What can I do? It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

Everything else is normal, just like in written chat.

Conclusion I have to admit that I'm a fan of this site. Yes, it might be a bit outdated, but I can make friends and communicate with people here. I see sports betting ads, but I can talk to people here. I meet nice people and become friends with them. Some live in Moscow, some in Stavropol, and some in other places, but it doesn't matter. This site helps me make great friends (Polina, Anna, Vika, Lera, I love you, you're a great friend, and this site has given me something really special). Sometimes, I spend time here, and it's great, but sometimes it's terrible. But I love this site because I can make friends and communicate with people here.

ExtraAnd I remember an old colleague who recommended this site to me in 2013. That year, he met a girl here, and they were together until the end of their lives, but they didn't know each other's real names. They met here in 2013, and five years later, they got married. Yes, things like that can happen.