Editor's Summary

This book is a comprehensive guide to building happiness based on four pillars: I – Me – Them – Effort. It's a scientific and wise approach to understanding human life and creating a sense of harmony. The book is a must-read for anyone looking to improve their mental well-being and find inner peace.

My Table Book on Happiness

I believe in science, and psychology is a science. It's a specific field that requires specialized knowledge and practice, making it understandable to everyone. Mikhail Litvak, rest his soul, was an expert at explaining complex psychology in simple, accessible language. I'm grateful for his work, which has helped many people see and understand the patterns of human life without romanticizing or dramatizing it. However, life is not always simple.

I don't believe in people whose lives are 100% successful in all areas. I've never met anyone like that, and it's statistically impossible. There are too many directions in life and too many factors to achieve perfection in every aspect. I don't understand people who say, 'I'm doing great!' I'm not doing great, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. Before reading this book, I often complained about various aspects of my life. After reading it, I realized that it's normal to have problems.

About the Book

If you want to be happy, this is one of Mikhail Litvak's most famous works. The book is available in different formats, including print, electronic, and audiobooks. I've always read it in electronic format, so please don't judge me for the screenshots.

The book is usually published by major Russian publishers like 'Эксмо,' АСТ, or 'Питер.' The book's length varies depending on the edition, but it's usually around 300 pages of engaging content.

My Reading Experience

Litvak structures the book as a series of reflections, observations, and practical recommendations. Some people may not like this approach, but he maintains his unique style, combining observations, personal examples, and logic with precise language.

The book is addressed to 'those who have lost hope and given up.' It's a guide to building happiness based on four pillars: I – Me – Them – Effort:

I – This is the inner core, self-respect, the ability to understand oneself, one's desires, and boundaries.Me – This refers to our close relationships, where there's trust, reciprocity, and care.Them – This is the surrounding society, acquaintances, and strangers, through which we actually exist.Effort – This is the activity that gives our lives meaning, forms our competence, and provides us with a sense of security.

My Theory of Happiness

This 'I – Me – Them – Effort' model is close to my own theory of happiness, which I call the 'pie theory.' I formulated this theory long before reading the book, and it's based on the idea that life is made up of various spheres, and none of them are ever 100% complete at any given time. We can't be in two places at once, and one aspect of our life often takes priority over others.

I believe that by the time we're 40, we've accumulated many qualities that make us valuable. However, our physical appearance may change, and we may not be as charming as we were in our youth. But we can develop inner beauty, which is more important. I'm convinced that there are many women like Helen Mirren, Sigourney Weaver, and Nicole Kidman who are beautiful, not just physically, but also organically and internally.

Work is an essential part of our lives, and it should be something that inspires and develops us. It should give us a sense of purpose and make us feel realized. If we love our work, it's not a chore, but a fulfilling part of our lives.

When faced with challenges at work, I rely on my other spheres, such as my relationships and personal growth. I remind myself that I'm not alone and that I have the power to change my situation. I prioritize my well-being, engage in activities that bring me joy, and nurture my relationships. This helps me maintain my inner balance and find strength in difficult times.

I believe in respecting others, even if they're strangers. I don't let their opinions or actions affect my self-worth. I understand that everyone has their own opinions and experiences, and I try not to judge others. By being kind and compassionate, I create a sense of harmony in my life.

I value Litvak's work for its scientific basis and wise presentation. It's not just a popular psychology book, but a guide to inner honesty and harmony.

Featured FAQ

What is the main idea of the book?The main idea of the book is to build happiness based on four pillars: I – Me – Them – Effort.

Who is the book addressed to?The book is addressed to 'those who have lost hope and given up.'

What is the 'pie theory' of happiness?The 'pie theory' of happiness is based on the idea that life is made up of various spheres, and none of them are ever 100% complete at any given time.

How can I apply the principles of the book to my life?You can apply the principles of the book by prioritizing your well-being, engaging in activities that bring you joy, and nurturing your relationships.

Is the book a self-help book?Yes, the book is a self-help book that provides a scientific and wise approach to understanding human life and creating a sense of harmony.

What is the author's style of writing?The author's style of writing is engaging, accessible, and logical, making the book easy to understand and apply to your life.