Finding Your True Self: A Journey of Self-Discovery

You can't change your life without starting with yourself. So many of our problems stem from our own foolishness, upbringing, and the mindset that was instilled in us from a young age. We've all been there - feeling like we're stuck in a rut, unsure of who we are or what we want. But here's the thing: it's not about blaming others or making excuses. It's about taking responsibility for our own lives and figuring out what makes us tick.

Think about it. When we're kids, we're shaped by our parents and caregivers. They teach us what's acceptable and what's not, and we internalize those lessons. But as we grow up, we start to realize that not all of those lessons were helpful. In fact, some of them were downright damaging. And that's when we start to struggle with our own self-esteem.

So, how do we break free from those patterns and start living the life we truly want? It starts with awareness. We need to understand where our thoughts and behaviors are coming from, and what's holding us back. And that's exactly what this book is all about.

Boris Litvak spent a lot of time studying different problems, and his conclusions were reflected in many books. You can easily find and read something relevant and necessary for yourself.

Today, we're going to review the 7 Steps to Successful Self-Esteem book.

The book was published by AST. There are different editions with different covers and bindings. I have a softcover version. It's a lightweight book that's easy to take with you (the book weighs around 300 grams).7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakAlready on the cover, you can see lines about a Grammatical Analysis of Self-Esteem Types, Exercises, and Future Assignments. And after looking at the table of contents, you won't have any doubts.

One thing that really got me thinking was the way this book makes you reflect on all sorts of questions and how they resonate with you on a personal level.

The 7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem by Boris Litvack is a small book that's easy to take with you wherever you go. (It's just 20*12.5cm in size)The pages are white and slightly transparent, but it's not a big deal. The text is clear and not smudged.I really appreciate the systematic approach to organizing the questions and topics.7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris Litvack7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvackWHAT THIS BOOK IS ABOUT

7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakThe author doesn't drag out the story, so you get a clear list of questions to ask yourself and get to know yourself better.

There are a lot of questions that resonate with many people.

ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM

7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvackTYPES OF SELF-ESTEEM

Types of self-esteem and how you can experience them yourself.

1. Unstable self-esteem is something many people are familiar with. The author uses the example of a hypothetical person named Sergei, which you can read about in the book.

If I try to summarize it quickly, it goes something like this: We feel good about ourselves when we're better than others in some way. We feel happy, successful, and confident. But as soon as we meet someone who's more successful, happy, or wealthy, our self-esteem takes a hit, and we feel disappointed, frustrated, and so on.

Unstable self-esteem means that a person's attitude towards themselves depends on the events happening in their life. Everything that happens, they run through their 'self', and this leads to a change in their attitude towards themselves.

2. Stable self-esteem isn't affected by external events. A person simply doesn't run everything through their 'self'.

It sounds intriguing, and you always seem to notice people like this right away.

7 Steps to Rock-Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakI loved how the author broke down the value and self-esteem concept using the 'IF' framework. It's a pretty familiar mindset for many of us, and it's basically just self-hypnosis. Like, if I lose weight, I'll be popular, guys will notice me, and so on. It's those simple examples that show how people don't feel their worth, don't feel a solid sense of self, and think that if something positive happens, their life will magically get better.

7 Steps to Rock-Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakI dove into this text without expecting it to be so logical and practical. The author really nailed the analysis and made their thoughts clear. You read it and think, 'Okay, I get it, and now I know what to do next.'

The 7-step system starts with AWARENESS. And that's the most important part. Once you figure out why you think poorly of yourself and how you perceive yourself, you can move forward and work on boosting your self-worth. This isn't about being egotistical or having a crown on your head. It's about having healthy self-love that wasn't exactly instilled in you.

People who wanted to throw shade at me from the get-go, when I said that all our problems, complexes, and worldview come from family and upbringing, can keep living in denial and blaming others. I'm not pointing fingers; I'm saying (like the author) that a child is shaped by their environment, and their self-image is formed based on how others see them.

7 Steps to Rock-Stable Self-Esteem. Boris Litvak7 Steps to Rock-Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakOur relationships with others are also formed in childhood. We pick up on this from our parents.

7 Steps to Rock-Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakThe level of involvement in relationships and trust, that emotional response or detachment, is also something we pick up on as a parental script.

7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakI really appreciate how the author breaks down the concepts and provides clear examples. The stories he shares are thought-provoking and help illustrate the points he's making. For instance, the example about the girl who grew up in a household where her mom loved and then abused her father really stuck with me. It's amazing how our upbringing can shape our perceptions of what's normal. On the other hand, the example of the girl who came from a family where her parents didn't drink and didn't tolerate it in others really hit home. It's crazy how our surroundings can influence our choices.

This book isn't just about theory; it's about practical application. The author doesn't just identify problems, he provides actionable advice on how to overcome them. There's no magic solution here, but the book offers a solid foundation for self-improvement. You can't just read it and forget it, though - you have to work with the material and apply it to your own life.

7 Steps to Stable Self-Esteem. Boris LitvakPROS

+ Good structure

+ Everything is clearly laid out

+ Lots of examples. (You can always relate them to your own situation or others and see the cause-and-effect relationship)

+ Good practical foundation for self-help

I didn't find any major cons.

This is definitely a book that's interesting to read. Whether you're working on your own self-esteem or helping others, it's a great resource. What I love about it is that it sparks a lot of reflection and helps you understand yourself and others better. You don't have to overthink things or try to figure out what's going on in someone else's head - just look at the root causes and you'll gain a lot of insight. It's a book that makes you slow down and think about your own actions and relationships.

I tend to read books like this slowly and thoughtfully, sometimes making notes along the way. It's hard not to stop and think about a particular situation or example. When you dig deeper, you start to understand a lot about yourself and your own behavior.

I'm confident in saying that this is the best book on self-esteem I've ever read. And it's definitely the best one by this author. Maybe it's just the re-release of the original book, but this version is definitely worth reading at least once - and then again.